We’ve all heard the saying, “you get what you give.” This is not only true, but an important tool to achieving success.
When we give to others, we add value to both their lives and our own. I want to be clear here. When I say give to others, I don’t necessarily mean giving them things like money, I mean giving advice, insight, perspective and encouragement; ultimately, giving them the tools so that they can build what they want on their own.
Giving people the tools and/or instructions on how to build what they want creates more self-sustainable individuals, and that’s what it’s all about.
It’s about bettering people, not spoiling them.
We know what happens to kids who’ve been spoiled, right? They usually become needy, entitled, and lazy as adults.
For the success of a society, we need everyone to be self-sufficient, confident and able. If we are giving them things without giving them information on how to get it themselves, we will create dependent and needy individuals, which in turn, creates a dependent and needy society.
So, what does giving get you?
For one, it feels good. Knowing you’ve given someone valuable insight or encouragement and have impacted their life in a positive way is one of the best feelings you will ever experience. It feels good knowing that this person’s life has improved and it feels good knowing that you were the one who has helped improve it. It’s a win-win.
Another thing giving gets you is a somewhat mirrored response from the Universe. Everything in the Universe is in perfect balance, you will only receive what you are giving. If you withhold ideas, knowledge, or love, the Universe will withhold those things from you.
When it comes to giving, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
A word of caution: don’t give what you don’t have. A lot of people make the mistake of giving too much to other people and not enough to themselves. The Hebrew Bible has a great quote, which is, “my cup runneth over.” This basically means that you are so full of insight, love, wisdom etc., that it is literally spilling out of you, onto others, because you cannot contain it all.
The opposite of this would be a person whose energy levels are so low that they can’t even draw upon them to energize themselves, yet they are giving their reserves to other people. This is unhealthy. You might think they are being selfless but in fact, they are doing more harm than good.
When they give their energy reserves to other people without saving some for themselves, they end up drained and resentful of the person who has taken their last stores of energy. It’s important to give from a place of abundance, not one of lack.
If you have low energy levels, don’t focus on giving to others right away, focus on giving to yourself. This doesn’t mean taking from others, it means giving to yourself. Give yourself time, rest, nourishment, love, etc. Give yourself everything you need and more so that when the time comes, you have more than enough to give to others.
You get what you give. The more you realize this, the more excited you will be to give to others. Not only does it do good for the person receiving, it does good for you; the giver and the inevitable receiver.